How Women Flirts - Is she really interested ?

Men are always complaining that they don’t understand women. This complaint often extends to the world of dating and flirting. Well, there is great news ahead for all of you men…

Women send 5 times more sexual body language signals than men!

That gives all you guys 5 times as many opportunities to learn whether women are interested.

Most men can easily recognize the non-verbal signs when a woman is NOT interested.

Nothing says “get lost” quite like the evil eye you just received from that attractive brunette in the corner!

Watch the reaction when a woman stands guardedly with her arms folded across her chest and a frown on her face. Men will probably be discouraged from approaching her, let alone asking her to dance.

However, men may have a harder identifying the more subtle signals when a woman is interested.

For example, a woman playfully twirls her hair, rubs her arm or leans in a little closer during a conversation.

What do these gestures mean?

They’re all positive signs that she’s interested in you!

She is using subtle, and sometimes subconscious, body signals to let you know how she feels. She doesn’t need to express the words out loud – her actions speak for her.

Women who are interested will focus on looking their best.

Preening tends to be an important part of how women flirt. A woman will focus on her physical appearance as soon as a man catches her eye. She may straighten her skirt, fix her coat or check the buttons on her blouse.

A flirting woman may also toss her hair around, stroke it or comb it slowly.

This is her way of trying to make the best first impression she can. Take it as a sign you can safely approach her.

Eye contact. Here eyes will reveal all.

A woman who is interested will often give a man a few lingering glances – ones that last longer than usual. She will then break the eye contact and look down. This is a submissive sign that most guys love.

She will often narrow her eyes slightly just like those sultry femme fatales in the movies. Her pupils will often dilate when she’s interested just like men.

If she smiles after giving you several glances, it’s a very good sign. It means you might not have to endure yet another lonely Saturday night…

A flirting woman knows the power of touch.

If you watch how women flirt, you will notice that they often use the power of touch. This can connect with a man’s primal instincts almost instantly.

A woman may touch a part of her body. She might cross and uncross her legs while slowly stroking her thigh. Or she might slowly stroke an object such as her glass.

If she touches or rubs her arm, it’s a good sign. If she touches any other part of her body, it’s a great sign!

A woman may also place her hand on your shoulder or leg or playfully pat you on the back. She may “accidentally” touch your hand when she’s passing you something.

If she leaves her hand for more than a few seconds, you should take this as a sign she’s flirting!

She may reveal a bit of skin to show you she’s interested.

A woman who is flirting will often reveal the skin on her shoulders, chest or back by wearing a low cut top or dress. She may lift up her hair to reveal the skin on her neck.

You will often notice a woman undoing a few buttons on her top or drawing up her skirt slightly.

Another area of skin that can be enticing to men is the soft skin of a woman’s wrists.

She may even expose her armpit. This will often drive men wild as long as you remembered to shave!

If she’s smart, she will reveal just enough to get the man’s attention and let his imagination take over.

She will make certain attention getting gestures with her mouth.

Women will often flirt by rolling their hips when they’re walking. Especially when they know you men are watching them as they head off to get a drink or use the washroom.

They may also tilt their head coyly. However, many women perform various attention getting movements with their mouth.

For example, they may lick their lips or apply their lipstick very slowly in front of you. Another common gesture involves eating something very slowly and showing the man how much she enjoys it.

Think of the food scene in 9 ½ Weeks where Mickey Rourke is feeding a blindfolded Kim Basinger fresh strawberries, chocolate syrup, whipped cream and, ice cubes. I’m sure you can picture the rest…

Making pronounced gestures with her lips will encourage a man to visualize kissing her.

She may draw physically closer to a man.

A woman may also lean in closer when she’s talking to you. If she leans close enough to touch you or whisper something in your ear, you know she’s interested.

She may even lower her voice intentionally so you have to move in closer to her!

This is her way of letting you know that she wants you to come physically and emotionally closer. By drawing you closer, she is creating more intimacy between the two of you.

So the next time you are interested in a woman, look for the following clues:

• She fixes her clothing or hair
• She maintains repeated eye contact
• She touches herself or you during conversation
• She reveals skin on her shoulders, chest, neck or back
• She makes attention getting gestures with her mouth
• She moves physically closer to you

These subtle gestures are all important signs that show you how women flirt.

Asanas for good sex

Is there even a link between improving sexual fitness and an exercise like Yoga? Down the centuries, yoga practices have always laid tremendous emphasis on a healthy sexual life.

The spiritual and sexual connection between yoga and intimacy has been debated by Ellen Barrett in her book, Sexy Yoga. "Yoga means union in Sanskrit, and it focuses on bringing one's body into harmony with the mind and spirit. The awareness of sexuality through yoga is deeper and more intimate. These are exercises, which are beneficial for you and your partner, which blend meditation, breath control and asanas. Yoga is about discovering the joys of elegant sexuality," says Barrett.

The healing power of Yoga is so strong that people who are physiologically weak and to some extent or even fully impotent may regain their potency as their physical health is revived through Yoga. Many folks admit that their marital relationship is improving after taking up yoga.

Enrich your love life with Yoga Asanas

1) Lotus Posture (Padmasana):


Padmasana is an excellent posture for all meditative practice and is consider as one of the best posture for concentration. It stimulates the pelvis, spine, abdomen, and bladder and stretches the ankles and knees and also strengthens the semen and spermatozoa. In women it corrects menstrual disorder and improves chances of conception.

Technique Spread a blanket or carpet on the floor and sit down with both your legs spread straight in front of your body while keeping your spine erect. Slowly and carefully, take hold of your right foot and place it on top of your opposite thigh, sole facing upwards and your heel close to your abdomen. When this feels comfortable, bend the other leg and place your foot on top of your opposite thigh. Ideally, both knees should touch the ground in the final position. Your head and spine should be held erect and the shoulders and arms should be relaxed. Also make sure both your thighs and knees are pressed against the floor. Finally, keep your elbows slightly bent and place the wrists of both hands on the respective knees, palms facing upwards. Now close your eyes, relax your entire body and breathe deeply through your nose. Within 10 to 12 days` practice, one can maintain this asana for 10 minutes.

2) Sarvangasana:


Sarvangasana is known as the queen of asanas which works out to be one of the best posture to energise all the sex glands and thereby improves sexual activity in both males and females. By doing this asana correctly, you can be cured of premature ejaculation. It also helps in maintaining erection of penis in males during coitus for a considerable length of time. Sarvangasana posesses medicinal value for curing impotence, frigidity, lack of sexual power and various other defects of sexual organs.

Technique Lie down flat on the floor, on your back, palms by your side, facing down and then slowly lift your legs off the ground, then your thighs and lastly, your hips. Support the whole body- back, hips, thighs and legs - on your elbows, hands pressing against the sides of the back for support. Try to keep it as vertical as possible.
Sarvangasana is a shoulder stand, so your body should be resting on your shoulders and not on your back. Hold this position for as long as possible, while keeping your body steady without shaking or jerking the legs. Remember to exhale while lifting your body up, but once your body is up, you can breathe normally. There is no need to hold your breath. Gradually bring down your whole body and return to the original supine position. This posture must be repeated for at least 3 minutes and after some days increase the time to 5 to 6 minutes.


3) Halsana:

Halsana is one of the best asanas to sublimate sexual energies as its daily practice makes men and women's genetic parts stronger and active. Female problems during menstruation and menopause and some sexual disorders can be remedied by Halsana.

It also invigorates and nourishes all the sexual glands and thereby improves an individual's sexual potential to a considerable extent. It also corrects impotence, frigidity and nightfall.

Technique Lie flat on the carpet with your hands straight by the side of your thighs, palm resting on the ground. Slowly raise your legs together without bending at knees by pressing your hand. Without bending at the knees, raise your hips higher and bring your legs over your head and backwards till your toes touch the ground. Keep your knees straight and legs together in a straight line. You need to remain in this pose for a few seconds, and return to your original position. Aged persons and those suffering from back pain and high blood pressure should not do this asana.


4) Bow Posture, Dhanurasana:

Dhanurasana is a very effective back strengthening exercise and also brings a general improvement in all sexual aspects. It makes the semen thick, gives strength to the penis and vagina and tones the vas-deference tubes.

Dhanurasana keeps sexual organs in a good condition and its regular practice improves chances of conception. Dhanurasana is helpful in increasing the time of astringency (time of sex, when you are finally ready for intercourse after foreplay).

Technique Lie down your abdomen with your forehead touching the ground. With an exhalation, bend your knees and lift your chest using your arms. Reach back with your arms one at a time and grab the outside of your ankles so that your palms are facing inward towards each other.

You need to remain in this position for ten seconds or a maximum of one minute. It is necessary that you exhale completely while you lie flat on the ground. Then inhale slowly and catch hold of your legs and raise yourself to form the bow, hold your breath while you are in this pose. Exhale slowly as you return to the flat-on-the-stomach pose.

5) Back Stretching Posture, Paschimottanasana:


Paschimottanasana is very useful for removing all sexual defects, such as nightfall, premature ejaculation, impotence, semen-atrophy, menstruation, congestion of vagina and sexual weakness.

Regular practice of Paschimottanasana tones up the sex centers in the spine and pelvic organs as well as stimulating the sensory nerves which greatly improves sexual performance of both men and women.

Technique Lie flat on your back on the carpet with hands remaining alongside your body and make sure that your knees are also flat and pressed to the ground. Now, slowly lift yourself to a sitting position and bend forward and clasp the big toe of each foot with your index and middle finger.

Thereafter, bring down your head so that it touches the knees keeping in mind that you do not raise your knees to the ground. Remain in this pose for about 5 seconds and then gradually release your grip on your toes and return to the original position. This needs to be repeated 5 to 6 times a day for a satisfactory result.

6) Peacock Posture, Mayurasana:

Consistent practice of Mayurasana activates the sex glands, strengthens the semen and spermatozoa and corrects menstrual disorders in women. After few months pof ractice one can achieve a total orgasm at the time of intercourse.

It is also helpful in toning up the sex centre in the spine and helps to cure congestion of one's vagina.

Technique Kneel down on the carpet and rest your palms on it facing downwards. Keep your hands firm and bring down your abdomen so that it presses against the elbows. Stretch your legs back and now raise them off the ground balancing at your abdomen on the support formed by the elbows. Remain in this posture for 25 to 28 seconds and return to the original position. This asana is not so easy and learning to balance will take at least three months.

7) Butterfly Posture, Bhadrasana:



Bhadrasana improves sexual performance considerably and its regular practice tones up nerves, muscles and circulatory system of the perineum and the genital organs in both men and women.

Performing Bhadrasana properly, could help in curing premature ejaculation and maintaining erection of penis in males during coitus for a considerable length of time. It also strengthens the circulatory and neuromuscular system of female euro-genital organs and improves chances of conception.

Technique Sit with both your legs fully stretched out and then fold both legs simultaneously ensuring that the soles of your feet touch each other all along. Hold the feet with both hands and draw them nearer to your body trying to touch the genitals with your heels. Press both knees so that they touch the floor.

Keep the upper part of the body and neck erect. Keep both hands on respective knees. With your hands you may swing your legs up and down as many times as you feel comfortable.

Remain in this posture for 5 to 10 minutes and remember this posture can be repeated 4 to 5 times to get good results.


8) Mudrasana:

Mudrasana removes all kinds of intestinal and spleen disorders, corrects menstrual disorders in women and is also helpful in increasing the time of astringency.

It tones up the sex centre in the spine and pelvic organs, as well as stimulating the sensory nerves and is qualitative in anomalies of the urinary secretion and spermatic perversions.

Technique Sit in Padmasana posture with your spine erect and then slowly bend forward until your forehead touches the ground. Exhale as you go down and take your hands behind your back and catch hold of the right wrist by the left hand. Return to the original erect pose inhaling as you go up. Remain in the posture for 10 to 15 seconds

9) Snake Posture, Bhujangasana:


Bhujangasana is one of the best asana for all spinal and back-ache problems and it works as a powerful antidote against wet-dreams and leucorrhoea. This posture is very effective for weakness of semen and it also helps in the development of the chest and firms the bust.

Consistent practice of Bhujangasana strengthens the uterus, testes, urethra, semen and genital organs. This posture is very qualitative in spermaturia, nightfall, semen –atrophy and premature ejaculation (quick fall).

Technique Bhujangasana is a backward bending asana. In the starting position, lie on your belly, while your head rests on your lower arms. Raise your forehead, look upwards and stretch your hands backwards. Let your weight rest on your chest. The head falls a little backwards towards your back and the backward movement proceeds from the neck and the chin.

Move your belly further backward as if someone is pulling your arms. The weight is more and more shifted towards your belly and your lower back does the real work. If you can't raise your chest any further, put your hands and arms next to your chest on the mat without losing the bend.

Stretch your arms so that they stand perpendicular on the floor and at the same time turn your arms a little inward. Relax your lower back and bear your weight with your arms. Move your chest further upwards with every breathing out.

Make your first night memorable

A little anxiety coupled with moments of anticipation and finally some wild thoughts, the perfect first night experience is often sprinkled with moments of coy reservation!

Most couples nurse nervous speculations and deep seated performance anxiety about their first night of closeness. Hearsay from newly wed friends or common beliefs picked up from random sources add to the sexual tension. Knowing the exact way to get it right is an arduous task and if gone wrong, you may end up facing a catastrophic situation in your bedroom with your first nuptial boo-boos.

We spoke to some couples to know the common blunders they made (inadvertently) on their first night. Of course, it wasn't just about 'sex' on the first night, as there were numerous other problems which could ruin the first night craze...

Boo-boo: A moment in haste and its all waste
Without much knowledge about sex, couples encountered awkward situations like premature ejaculation for men or women getting overtly apprehensive about vaginal pain and hymen bleeding. Fear is the biggest factor affecting performance on the first night.

Top Tip: Make the act more pleasurable
No person is a master sex performer, so indulge in a prolonged foreplay session to make your first night a tender bonding experience. Even if things go wrong, stay calm and try again after some time. Sometimes the wedding stress and the discomfort of an all new environment takes a mental toll. The body and mind may not be fully open for the experience of sexual discovery. Being patient is key.

Boo-boo: Experiments can wait
Agreed that it's your first time with your partner, but don't get overtly excited. Couples are all geared up to try new acts in bed, but first try and figure out your partner's comfort quotient.

Top Tip: Every night is a first night
Don't think that the first night is your 'one and only' chance to make love passionately, with time your bond will grow even more special with your better half. The first night is just the beginning of pleasures. Don't fret and waste it in performance anxiety!

Boo-boo: Look sexy in tradition
It's believed that a bride must remain in her wedding outfit and let the husband come and lift up the veil (‘ghoongat’). But modern day brides aren't too interested in donning the ostentatious outfit for too long and the minute they enter the bedroom; they prefer to undress into a sexy lingerie/night gown. Now, no matter how sensuous your night gown maybe, it doesn't have the same charm as a wedding ensemble. This fashion faux pas forms a lesser known, but common goof-up for brides.

Top Tip: Gifts Galore
As the husband lifts up the veil of the bride's wedding outfit, she's entitled to a surprise gift (for 'mooh dikhayee'). Rings, pendants, necklaces are passé; think of something out-of-the-blue, maybe a romantic honeymoon package, which she would be least expecting or a glamorous outfit, a transparent, hot dress, which you'd like her to get clad in just for your eyes.

Boo-Boo: Motor mouth myth
Some might not agree here, but the following is a common occurrence. Your partner is not interested in too much talking, especially on the first night. If you're the new bride, behave like one - blush a little to impart that 'just married' feel. Men should ideally stop narrating a long drawn thesis about their preferences. Being a chatterbox is no less than a slip-up!

Top Tip: Words say a lot more
Don't give each other marathon lessons on your likes and dislikes. Instead writing a romantic letter and keeping it tucked away under the pillow can be a sweet initiating gesture. Open up and talk about your secrets and hidden desires!

Boo-boo: Stop acting as strangers, you're married
We aren't saying shed all inhibitions and get going for a wild act in bed, but at least initiate the process of getting to know each other. Couples often refrain from talking to each other normally on the first night, presuming it's just meant for 'sex!'

Top Tip: Know each other
Start an interesting conversation to break the ice. Share moments you enjoyed on your wedding day and build the comfort level.

Boo-boo: Let the ambiance do the talking
The D-day tiredness is evidently there, but some couples, especially brides, tend to go overboard with the stress factor. This surely is a big turn-off for the other half, as he sees you either sleeping already or all prepared to slip between the sheets without any foreplay act. Just because you're tired!

Top Tip: Ambience unlimited
It's your first night, so your bed may as well resemble a full bloom garden in spring. Decorate it in a way that it sets the mood right for a romantic nighttime ahead. Create a heady ambience with aromatic oils, fragrant flowers, scented bed sheets and sensual music. It will heal your tired souls. Also try a relaxing foot massage to pamper each other. It will set the stage for the real act.

Boo-boo: Forget friends, it's your time to enjoy each other
As per tradition, the bride has to give her young in-laws a bribe to move out of the way before she enters the bedroom. Unfortunately, some in their new 'bahu' avatar tend to allow friends and relatives to come in and sit for hours to gossip, without even realising that the poor hubby is waiting to get spend some alone (private) moments. Grow up girls!

Top Tip: Twosome is the word
Friends and relatives are not going anywhere, stop indulging with them too much, especially on your first night. Concentrate on the man instead and make him feel special and not your in-laws.

The first night is special. Chase your future dreams rather than pining away for distant sexual goals.

Top ten sex romps

Are you always complaining that your sex life is running out of steam? Well, what’s stopping you from getting adventurous and innovative? Charge up your sex life using this list of the 10 craziest places to fool around...or you could get inspired and think of a few of your own!

1. On the couch: After the bed, the couch in the living room is screaming for attention. And the best part...it’s comfy too. The cushions work as a support system to get those curves and arches to enjoy the perfect moves, while the lack of space will keep up the intimacy levels. Want some more action? Put on a wild flick on video and you have a perfect mood maker!
Word of caution: Watch out your moves, going out of control is injurious...for the couch of course!

2. In the bathtub: Things can get real hot even in a cool bath tub. For the ultimate romantic experience, arrange for a bubble bath with aromatic rose petals and passion perfume. Add some mood lighting, splash a few drops of ‘ylang ylang’ essential oil and be certain that the sensuous experiment will lead to some supah hot sex.
Word of caution: Check out the water temperature, you don’t want to end up with painful blisters or a frozen lover...isn’t?

3. In the kitchen: Be it 91/2 Weeks or Fatal Attraction , the kitchen has borne witness to quite a number of sexapades. The sturdy surfaces and shelves offer great support, especially for stand-up acts, while the feeling of being at an unconventional place pumps up the excitement to newer heights. And how can you miss the yummy treats your kitchen is loaded with? Eat them, but off each other’s hot bods. Think chocolate, cream, jams and jellies!
Word of caution: Know the stuff you are eating and applying...some edibles are good only to eat. So watch out for allergies!

4. In the pool: Though not many are privileged to have one in the confines of their home, if you are one of the lucky few, make the most of it. Challenge your swimming skills and get under for into some underwater escapades. Who said that the inflatable water turtle is meant only for tanning, use it for some steamy adventure...ride it together and get a new high!
Word of caution: You need not be swimming champs, but fairly decent floating skills are definitely expected to get into the water-y fun.

5. In the car: Yes it’s crammed, but it’s cosy too. A quickie in the backseat can rekindle the excitement that you felt during your heady college days. Put on some romantic retro tracks and switch on the AC. Don’t fret, it won’t cool down the passion. When the place is different, the position can’t be a drab. It’s tough to adjust facing each other, but turning the world around can definitely help...hope you got the clue!
Word of caution: Just be careful where you park...you don’t want to get busted!

6. In the dressing room: How about catching her unawares in the dressing room of a store? Sounds dangerous but thrilling too! The fear of getting caught will only add to the sensual experience, while the lack of time is perfect to give you a never before quickie. Thinking comfort? Sorry! All you have is a stool...let him stand as you take charge!
Word of caution: Making noise is not allowed here and do take care of hidden cameras and key-holes.

7. The stairs: If you are thinking they can be a pain to one’s body, think again, as they can be adventurous too. After all, they can give you those highs and lows, especially when the girl is comparatively short.
Word of caution: Don’t get really aggressive if getting cramps in your lower back is not on your mind.

8. On the roof : Yes, this can be a great playground; the gentle moonlight, a cool breeze to caress your passionate entwinings. Pep it up with some paper lamps or scented candles and light music, which will just add to the mood. You have all the space to set the ball rolling...so go ahead and explore her contours under a starry sky.
Word of caution: No physical risks are involved...but just take care of peeping Toms around.

9. In a sleeping bag: Nothing could bring you as close as that sleeping bag that’s meant for a single person and is loaded with two! Why not get into some naughty action and add to a fun-filled camping trip? Instead of the normal position, turn around and have some fun from behind. Talk about kinky fantasies!
Word of caution: Zip the bag properly, you don’t want end up killing insects in the mid of the act.

10. On a plane: You can try the toilet and if that’s too cramped, the seat in a Business or First class cabin. Some airliners with long-haul flights now boast of recliner seats that go as flat as a bed. Take a flight of fantasy.
Word of caution: Don’t try it if you already have flight phobia and take care of people lining-up outside the loo.

Food for sex !

The love affair between food and sex has been a long and torrid one. Known to complement each other, a lot has been said on the use of food in the game of love.

From delicious delicacies to entice the lover to fooling around with juicy succulent fruits during the act of love, food can play an important role in spicing up your sex life.

In ancient times certain food items were thought to have the power of improving the sexual life of an individual, increase the sexual drive and even cure problems of fertility and sexual dysfunction. These food items were identified as aphrodisiac food, i.e. foods that have the power to boost the libido and ensure that one had a good time. The word Aphrodisiac which comes from Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of love, means any form of stimulation that can lead to sexual arousal. .

Cloves : If you thought they were good enough as mouth-fresheners only, think again. Cloves are the most powerful natural aphrodisiacs and are also effective against mental and physical fatigue. So the next time your partner complains of being tired when you are in the mood, just feed him/her some cloves.

Ginger : They don't just add flavour to your dishes, but can also excite your senses. It has been used in drinks and when taken in reasonable doses, it can cause healthy hot flashes.

Garlic : The thought of a garlic smelling mouth is hardly a turn-on, but then to get something you need to give up something. The heat in garlic is said to stir sexual desires. So the next time your partner stuffs your dish with garlic, you know what is playing on their mind.

Tomatoes : Now we know why this vegetable is a must in almost all Indian dishes. Our ancestors surely knew what they were doing when they made all those recipes. Tomatoes have been associated with goddesses Venus and Aphrodite. Paired with other sensual flavours like, basil and mint they can create a lot of heat and passion.

Coriander : They can not only spice up your curries but also your sex life. Dried coriander seeds have an euphoric effect especially on women. So the next time you go vegetable shopping don't forget to stock up some extra coriander.

Onion : Remember how widows in ancient India were asked to refrain from using onion and garlic in their food. Well, with the kind of lives these women were expected to lead they couldn’t afford to have their sexual desires kindled. In France, centuries ago, newlyweds were fed onion soup on their wedding day to restore their sexual energy.

Horseradish : If you like ‘muli-ke parathe’ you are in luck. Feed your physical and sexual hunger with this vegetable. The pulp of horseradish is said to have aphrodisiac properties.

Carrots : Well, here's an excuse to have another bowl of ‘gajar ka halwa’. This phallus shaped vegetable is said to be a stimulant for men. In ancient Middle Eastern royalty they were used to aid seduction.

Bananas : Who would have thought that this fruit, so commonly available round the year, would have such properties? Your humble ‘kela’, is much more than a nutritious fruit. The banana flower with its phallic shape is partially responsible for its popularity as an aphrodisiac food. Banana is also rich in potassium and vitamin B which are a necessity for sex hormone production.

Grapes : This is one fruit which has often figured as food of love. Pictures of lovers teasing and feeding each other with grapes are quite common. But now we know why. Related to Dionysus, wine and fertility, grapes have long been considered the food of Gods.

Saffron : Often used as a flavour in many Indian sweet dishes, these orange flakes, better known in India as ‘kesar’ has stimulating effects on the erogenous zones. Studies have proven that saffron has the same effect as hormones.

So you see, getting yourself or your partner into the right mood is not that difficult or expensive. While scented candles, massage oils and caviar are always a welcome treat, for the not-so-special occasions you can give always peep into your refrigerator or your vegetable basket for some help.

(These are some of the common non-medical aphrodisiacs that we came across on the net. However, none of these have been medically proven to have aphrodisiacal properties!)

Seducing Senses

You can touch my hair and kiss me everywhere... Does it sound too clichéd or rather boring way to seduce your partner? Are you tired of reading the same old techniques of seduction?

Well, what about going back to the basics? And nothing can be more basic than the five senses - sense of sight, sense of smell, sense of taste, sense of hearing, sense of touch. These can really keep things sizzling hot during sex. Vatsayan would have definitely vouched for that! We get modern day experts to share more on it...

To keep the flames burning in your sex-life, you must fine-tune your seduction skills. With fingers busy, mouths, lips, tongues, noses, and eyes enticed, sensuousness will linger in every move to make you the most desirable man or woman of seduction.

Rita Gangwani, an etiquette expert, shares, “Sometimes we take the senses so much for granted that we don't really pay attention to them. Working to develop the five senses and focusing on them while making love, drawing attention to his/her sensuousness will not only enhance your own pleasure, but will give pleasure to your lover as well.”

Dr. Sanjay Chugh, expert on sexual issues, says, “The seduction tips that one can employ also depends on ‘overall’ quality of the couple's relationship. If there is a healthy emotional and psychological bond between the two, the chances of a good sex life is high. And in case, if one incorporates a few out-of-the-box techniques, then it’s definitely some icing on the cake!”

Psychiatrist Dr. Samir Parikh supports, “Couples need to keep trying to make things work for them but the key is not just trying new things, its more to be attuned to each others likes, fantasies and pleasures so that a mutually satisfying relationship could result. They can try various permutations and combinations of these seduction ways on their personalities.”

On how these five senses work towards stimulating the libido of male/female partner, Dr. Parikh explains, “Most of these factors (senses) have an association in our mind, so they act as a conditioned stimulus, and can help creating the atmosphere. But the key would be the mutuality and the quality of the non-sexual life would have its direct impact on the sexual life.”

Rita adds, “One must be aware to the fact that human body is bristling with sensory receptors - God’s gift to humankind - it’s up to us to responsibly enjoy it. One must give body the permission to celebrate what’s inside; celebrate it with oneself, and with the partner. We must take time to really learn the subtle but very powerful art of seducing the opposite sex using all five senses.”

These are simple yet extremely seductive ways.

SENSE OF SIGHT
It’s an individual choice how you choose to decorate your bedroom but what’s important here is to place care and attention on the location. Stuff like candles, silky bedding and lots of pillows and even hot lingerie can do wonders.

Expert view : This may not be possible all the time but can be reserved for those special occasions where one wants to feel and act different. Using rose petals and pillows as props can surely add to the fun!

SENSE OF SMELL
Aromatics and fragrances are the best mood setters however most of couples won’t know how to make the most of it. Aromatics can work for you or against you, so make sure that you know which scents your partner enjoys. Scented candles incense or scented massage oil can excite your partner.

Expert view : Some smells/fragrances make you feel calm and relaxed and this contributes to one's state of mind while making love. A massage certainly tends to loosen you up and soothes your senses.

SENSE OF TASTE
Believe it or not, but food can be powerful aphrodisiacs. Try strawberries with whipped cream, grapes or edible lotions, chocolate syrups or honey.

Expert view : It is understood that aphrodisiacs tend to increase one's libido, desire for sex and set the right mood. Some would even reduce one's usual inhibitions and make you more comfortable, aroused and stimulated.

SENSE OF HEARING
Apart from whispering in ears and listening to your body while making love, other sounds and noises can also do the magic. Let your partner listen to an erotic story in the background pre-recorded in your voice or a romantic piece of music that fits the overall mood you are going for.

Expert view : The kind of noise, nature and type would be important, as a loud, disturbing, croaky cacophonous noise is definitely a turn off. However, some soothing, romantic music can surely get you in the naughty mood.

SENSE OF TOUCH
This happens to be the most erotic senses of all. You can add that extra sensation to this sense with silky bedding, lingerie, or even with oil massage. You may also try building up the mood with ice cube, feather, something furry or a rose bud.

Expert view : The entire human body is an erogenous zone - the neck, shoulders, arms, ear, lips...the list goes on and on! Exploring this zone and stroking it gently can certainly get your partner feel horny and increasingly passionate.

How to tell her you love her

Telling her “I love you” is a big stem in building a relationship. There are many ways of doing it, but make sure you mean it before you say it to your girlfriend. Plan it all well. Here’s how you can go about it...

FIRST STEP: Decide on when and where you want to tell her. Would you like to do it in a special place? Do you want to say it to her on a certain day? Maybe if her birthday is coming up soon, you’d like to wait and finally propose to her on that special day. You might want to tell her at the restaurant where you went the first time.

SECOND STEP: You have to set the mood and be romantic. Buy her flowers. Flowers often say a lot. You could also buy her a romantic gift, something she would love.

THIRD STEP: Look at her directly, take her hand and tell her how positive you feel about her. Give her examples of things you really like about her. Be
sincere.

FOURTH STEP: In your conversation, convey to her how you feel being with her and how much you enjoy your time together. Be specific about what you value and appreciate about being with her.

FIFTH STEP: Follow these positive statements with telling her you love her in whatever way feels best for you. For instance, “I feel I’ve come to love you” or “I realise I love you” or “I feel so much love for you” or “I've fallen in love with you” or simply “I love you.” But hey, don’t hesitate and not say it at all. It’s your big day, be calm and tell her what you feel. After all, there’s been so much preparation you’ve made for this moment. In all probability, she will smile and accept your proposal.

9 Goof up to avoid in Bed

When you're in bed with your lover, the last thing you want to do is turn them off. That said, here are a few common blunders that you should not commit.

1. NOT KISSING

Believe it or not, many people (and this includes women) don't kiss their partner when they're having sex. Why? Perhaps because the positioning doesn't allow for it or they are too eager to climax and feel that it might break the rhythm. Nevertheless, it is highly recommended that you make an effort to kiss your partner during the act – it will only add to the experience.

2. BITING BEFORE YOUR PARTNER'S READY

While many people enjoy an aggressive partner, biting any part of their body before they are aroused may lead to pain and discomfort (and might even lessen the chances of any further action ) or simply scare them off. So make sure your partner is fully excited before you bite their ear, shoulders, neck or any other part of their body.

3. IGNORING EVERYTHING BUT SEXUALISED PARTS:

Genitals are great, no doubt, but you should definitely pay attention to other parts of your lover's body and focus for some time on their entire body – knees, wrists, back and stomach are highly erogenous zones for men as well as women. Gently caressing these areas will help excite your partner further; in turn, increasing the chances of them pleasuring you back.

4. PUTTING YOUR WEIGHT ON YOUR PARTNER

Even if you're a girl! It's okay to lose yourself in the moment every once in a while and go crazy on your lover. But when you're lying on top of them, you have to be careful not to drop your weight on them. Chocking them or hindering their ability to breathe will anyway kill the moment and any chances of some good action.

5. CLIMAXING TOO SOON/ TOO LATE

This one is especially for men. You need to have good control on your muscles to ensure that you can ejaculate at an appropriate time. Too soon and you may leave your partner unsatisfied; too late and it might leave your partner feeling as if they're pumping iron at the gym. To avoid this, spend a lot more time on foreplay (this will help men as well as women). If you take too long and can only ejaculate via manual stimulation, do your best to get your partner to orgasm and then they can return you the favour.

6. NOT WARNING YOUR PARTNER BEFORE YOU CLIMAX

If you're going to let go – and this applies even to women – whether during oral sex or intercourse, you need to tell your partner beforehand. Something as simple as "I'm going to let go," will suffice. Your partner deserves to know.

7. TREATING SEX LIKE PORN

Although some couples enjoy having raunchy sex, you'd be wise to talk to your partner before you engage in such behaviour. If you begin being nasty with your lover without knowing if they like it first, chances are the scenario won't end on a happy note.

8. STAYING QUIET

Do you like to hear it when your partner is having a good time? So pay them the same respect and speak up when you're enjoying yourself. Something as simple as a little moan, or even saying something like, "that feels so good," will encourage them and educate them further on your moan zones.

9. MECHANICAL ACT

It may feel comfortable to you to pump away like you do at the gym, but you'll quickly discover that most people don't enjoy such an act. Mix it up a little bit; go fast at times, then slowly. Be creative and you'll find yourself enjoying some variation too.

Tips to arouse your SENSES

Here are some tips, suggested by the expert, to arouse your senses...

SIGHT
1. Move in front of the mirror, so the two of you get front-row seats for the evening show.

2. Make eye contact with each other and let each other know that you have a deep connection. Don’t close your eyes during lovemaking; it makes your partner feel that you’re bringing someone else into the imagination.

3. Porn is great, if your partner is game but do not overdo this and neither expect partner to perform like a porn star forcibly. Let it happen naturally.

4. Keep the lights soft and filtered, as too bright lighting can detract from the ambience.

5. For special evenings, nothing adds romance like the warm glow of candles.

6. You can even try doing a strip tease for each other on some romantic number.

SMELL

1. Pheromones, the perfume of sexual attraction (produced by your body naturally) can be a great turn-on but make sure your partner is comfortable with it.

2. Rose petals can either be stewed on the bed or you can take a sensual bath with rose petals in the tub. Other herbal aphrodisiacs like jasmine, rose and ylang ylang can also be tried.

3. Gently wipe your light bulbs with a thin coat of perfumed oil and it’ll send calming or sensual scents throughout the bedroom.

4. Sprinkle dusting powder on your sheets to make them fragrant and silky. Scented sachets of lavender and rosemary also add to the air of romance.

5. Slightly menthol scented hygiene washes can be used to wash your body for that fresh tingly smell.

6. Use a mint or a mouth freshener before you kiss your partner.

TASTE

1. Get some sensual food items to bed like chocolate sauce, strawberries, grapes or whipped cream to explore the world of sexy tastes.

2. Bring a few flavored warming massage oils that come in multiple flavors like strawberry, cherry and banana. These sexy oils not only create heat and lubrication, they taste good, too!

3. Hand-feed each other fruits with curious textures, like pomegranates or lychees. The sugar and unique feel of the fruit on her lips and tongue can serve up an arousing double shot of pleasure.

4. Drink champagne from sexy champagne glasses, caress the long stem and lick each other’s lips - this is mind blowing too.

5. Edible underwear in different flavors can also be experimented with.

SOUND

1. Play some slow, romantic music to get your partner in the mood for a long night of sex. Be vocal. Moan when he/she hits the right spots during the act. These sounds boost up arousal.

2. Give him/ her little auditory arousal with some hot compliments. Do dirty talk and tell each other what you would like to do to them.

3. Read dirty porn stories aloud to each other.

4. Try enacting a fantasy character and talk like him/ her - a fantasy lover, film star, or characters like doctor, nurse etc... just go crazy with the imagination.

5. If it's noisy outside your bedroom window, hang thick curtains to muffle the sound. Keep distractions such as the television in another room.

6. Please recheck that your bed does not make squeaky sounds.

TOUCH

1. Make your room romantic and as cosy as possible by maintaining the right temperature, as per the season.

2. Put silky/ satiny sheets on the bed, which will make the bed look instantly ready for sex. Real key is a comfortable mattress, so make sure that it’s neither too hard nor too soft.

3. Throw some light weight soft pillows of various sizes all over the bed. These come very handy while experimenting with various sexual positions.

4. Hold an ice cube in your palm and as it melts, drip it down his/her abdomen.

5. A foot massage can trigger the nerves that connect with the genitals.

6. Stroke each other’s hair and to further arouse this, give each other a back massage. Use feather, flowers, and petals to stroke the body and send shivers down the spine.

7. Lick each others trigger zones and breathe on the neck and ears. Blind fold your partner with silk scarf and let the game start.

Sexual Temptation

It's widely believed that eating chocolates produce certain hormones that are exactly the same as those generated while having sex! Then why eat chocolates? Sex is a better option!

While you'd do anything to savour the ultimate joy before, during and after sex, you might not know that there are several food items that can build up the mood, ignite the passion and get you going for a gratifying act in bed.

Aphrodisiacs, as they are commonly referred to, may have some scientific study backing them up, but couples usually select them based on certain preset notions and beliefs.

While some feel that they're tempting enough to evoke their erotic senses, for others, aphrodisiacs are an integral part of the foreplay process. Surprisingly, some men have even resorted to referring to Kareena Kapoor's poster where dark chocolate ran all over her assets. "When I see melted chocolate, it tempts me a lot and I get a feeling of my partner trying to seduce me in bed. It's not that I spread chocolate all over her body, but having a bite of chocolate and then kissing her with it in my mouth sets the mood right," shares 29-year old Vineet Khanna.

Other than chocolate, fruits like strawberries and bananas are also considered to be effective aphrodisiacs. "Of course, you can't think of teasing your partner with a fruit like mango. Strawberries are small and the heart-shape helps in building the sexual mood, as you can just take half of it in your mouth and let your partner try and bite the remaining half. Also, the soft thorns on the outer layer work well to make my hubby horny," feels Jigyasa Thakore.

There's a belief that the more a couple sweat it out in bed, the wilder the sex escapade gets. Couples also therefore tend to consume more of chilli peppers to induce sweating. "Eating chicken makes my man sweat a lot and I don't need to add that extra, spicy chilli. In a way, mere chicken acts as an aphrodisiac for me to get him going," shares 32-year old housewife Meenal Duggal.

While aphrodisiacs have been doing their rounds since time immemorial, nobody really knows what good they actually do. Read ahead to know more about how they work...

What Women Want

It’s the untold story.

Feminism has made us want more. We’re greedy like never before. No compromises, please! Rouge did a random poll, here’s what we found out about what women want!

Women want to find true love!

Lusty women, passionate women, one-man women, sigh! Women want the same thing -- they want fairytale. They want to feel like Cinderella. Love still makes the world go round. Model Amanpreet Wahi says, “One thing, that I want the most is a person who loves me unconditionally. Believe me, if you get that one person, your life is perfect. I know many people who want money but what’s life without that someone special who loves you. My life is beautiful because of my boyfriend Raghav. A lot of people envy me for that.” Agrees actor Mona Singh, “I want everything but if I am asked to choose, it would be love.”

Women want to be a tigeress at work!

When you see a woman pitching fresh ideas in every meeting and also cancelling dinner dates with her partner or friends for attending an official gathering, she’s a woman who chooses career, hands down. Sarah Jane Dias, model says, “For me, work is my passion. This definitely doesn’t mean that I wouldn’t love to have that special someone but being good at work gives me a high.” Sanya Kapoor, a college student says, “If you have a good career, you get good money with which you can shop, socialise, have nice people around and also get a successful man as your partner.”

Women still want a good marriage!

We’re still traditional. You got it right. We want to be wooed, and then finally get married happily. At least, that’s what a majority of the women dream about. Is it easy? TV actor Shilpa Saklani says, “For me, there’s nothing more important than a good marriage. Making my married life work is an ambition.”

Women want good friends

We all need a shoulder to cry on. The TV soap Friends has given us great lessons in love and frienships. When we’re down, the ‘dial-a-friend’ therapy works wonders. Every woman needs friends. Why isn’t Sex and the City all about great friendships. “If you have good friends around you, nothing can bother you. They guard you like pillars all the time,” says HR consultant Deepti Kalra. Isn’t that what friends are for!

Women want to be high maintainence girls

Show me the money, honey! Yes, that’s what some women love to sing. Gucci bags, Chanel glasses, solitaires, high heels, Armani clothes and a penthouse. Aaah! Now, that’s what women dream of. It’s not only a happy distraction but a reality. “I would like to embark on a shopping spree every now and then, without bothering about my dipping bank balance. This will make me the object of envy for every other woman. Money can buy anything - even a nice guy,” says team leader Smita Kullu.

Women want good sex!

We’ve glamourised sex too much! While men are bragging about the amazing sex they are enjoying, women are left asking for more. Women as you know, don’t need much time to rev up when it comes to sex. Bad sex is a dampener! So, we were not surprised when 70% women voted for good sex. Actor Sherlyn Chopra says, “Sex is very important for me. There’s no greater pleasure than a good sex session. I even use sex toys as I think no man can satisfy me completely.”

Women want to be intellectuals!

Actor Tisca Chopra says, “For me, time is the most desirable thing in this world. There are so many places to visit, so many people to meet. I always feel that if I am not living 60 seconds of a minute, I am not doing justice to my life