Top ten sex romps

Are you always complaining that your sex life is running out of steam? Well, what’s stopping you from getting adventurous and innovative? Charge up your sex life using this list of the 10 craziest places to fool around...or you could get inspired and think of a few of your own!

1. On the couch: After the bed, the couch in the living room is screaming for attention. And the best part...it’s comfy too. The cushions work as a support system to get those curves and arches to enjoy the perfect moves, while the lack of space will keep up the intimacy levels. Want some more action? Put on a wild flick on video and you have a perfect mood maker!
Word of caution: Watch out your moves, going out of control is injurious...for the couch of course!

2. In the bathtub: Things can get real hot even in a cool bath tub. For the ultimate romantic experience, arrange for a bubble bath with aromatic rose petals and passion perfume. Add some mood lighting, splash a few drops of ‘ylang ylang’ essential oil and be certain that the sensuous experiment will lead to some supah hot sex.
Word of caution: Check out the water temperature, you don’t want to end up with painful blisters or a frozen lover...isn’t?

3. In the kitchen: Be it 91/2 Weeks or Fatal Attraction , the kitchen has borne witness to quite a number of sexapades. The sturdy surfaces and shelves offer great support, especially for stand-up acts, while the feeling of being at an unconventional place pumps up the excitement to newer heights. And how can you miss the yummy treats your kitchen is loaded with? Eat them, but off each other’s hot bods. Think chocolate, cream, jams and jellies!
Word of caution: Know the stuff you are eating and applying...some edibles are good only to eat. So watch out for allergies!

4. In the pool: Though not many are privileged to have one in the confines of their home, if you are one of the lucky few, make the most of it. Challenge your swimming skills and get under for into some underwater escapades. Who said that the inflatable water turtle is meant only for tanning, use it for some steamy adventure...ride it together and get a new high!
Word of caution: You need not be swimming champs, but fairly decent floating skills are definitely expected to get into the water-y fun.

5. In the car: Yes it’s crammed, but it’s cosy too. A quickie in the backseat can rekindle the excitement that you felt during your heady college days. Put on some romantic retro tracks and switch on the AC. Don’t fret, it won’t cool down the passion. When the place is different, the position can’t be a drab. It’s tough to adjust facing each other, but turning the world around can definitely help...hope you got the clue!
Word of caution: Just be careful where you park...you don’t want to get busted!

6. In the dressing room: How about catching her unawares in the dressing room of a store? Sounds dangerous but thrilling too! The fear of getting caught will only add to the sensual experience, while the lack of time is perfect to give you a never before quickie. Thinking comfort? Sorry! All you have is a stool...let him stand as you take charge!
Word of caution: Making noise is not allowed here and do take care of hidden cameras and key-holes.

7. The stairs: If you are thinking they can be a pain to one’s body, think again, as they can be adventurous too. After all, they can give you those highs and lows, especially when the girl is comparatively short.
Word of caution: Don’t get really aggressive if getting cramps in your lower back is not on your mind.

8. On the roof : Yes, this can be a great playground; the gentle moonlight, a cool breeze to caress your passionate entwinings. Pep it up with some paper lamps or scented candles and light music, which will just add to the mood. You have all the space to set the ball rolling...so go ahead and explore her contours under a starry sky.
Word of caution: No physical risks are involved...but just take care of peeping Toms around.

9. In a sleeping bag: Nothing could bring you as close as that sleeping bag that’s meant for a single person and is loaded with two! Why not get into some naughty action and add to a fun-filled camping trip? Instead of the normal position, turn around and have some fun from behind. Talk about kinky fantasies!
Word of caution: Zip the bag properly, you don’t want end up killing insects in the mid of the act.

10. On a plane: You can try the toilet and if that’s too cramped, the seat in a Business or First class cabin. Some airliners with long-haul flights now boast of recliner seats that go as flat as a bed. Take a flight of fantasy.
Word of caution: Don’t try it if you already have flight phobia and take care of people lining-up outside the loo.

Food for sex !

The love affair between food and sex has been a long and torrid one. Known to complement each other, a lot has been said on the use of food in the game of love.

From delicious delicacies to entice the lover to fooling around with juicy succulent fruits during the act of love, food can play an important role in spicing up your sex life.

In ancient times certain food items were thought to have the power of improving the sexual life of an individual, increase the sexual drive and even cure problems of fertility and sexual dysfunction. These food items were identified as aphrodisiac food, i.e. foods that have the power to boost the libido and ensure that one had a good time. The word Aphrodisiac which comes from Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of love, means any form of stimulation that can lead to sexual arousal. .

Cloves : If you thought they were good enough as mouth-fresheners only, think again. Cloves are the most powerful natural aphrodisiacs and are also effective against mental and physical fatigue. So the next time your partner complains of being tired when you are in the mood, just feed him/her some cloves.

Ginger : They don't just add flavour to your dishes, but can also excite your senses. It has been used in drinks and when taken in reasonable doses, it can cause healthy hot flashes.

Garlic : The thought of a garlic smelling mouth is hardly a turn-on, but then to get something you need to give up something. The heat in garlic is said to stir sexual desires. So the next time your partner stuffs your dish with garlic, you know what is playing on their mind.

Tomatoes : Now we know why this vegetable is a must in almost all Indian dishes. Our ancestors surely knew what they were doing when they made all those recipes. Tomatoes have been associated with goddesses Venus and Aphrodite. Paired with other sensual flavours like, basil and mint they can create a lot of heat and passion.

Coriander : They can not only spice up your curries but also your sex life. Dried coriander seeds have an euphoric effect especially on women. So the next time you go vegetable shopping don't forget to stock up some extra coriander.

Onion : Remember how widows in ancient India were asked to refrain from using onion and garlic in their food. Well, with the kind of lives these women were expected to lead they couldn’t afford to have their sexual desires kindled. In France, centuries ago, newlyweds were fed onion soup on their wedding day to restore their sexual energy.

Horseradish : If you like ‘muli-ke parathe’ you are in luck. Feed your physical and sexual hunger with this vegetable. The pulp of horseradish is said to have aphrodisiac properties.

Carrots : Well, here's an excuse to have another bowl of ‘gajar ka halwa’. This phallus shaped vegetable is said to be a stimulant for men. In ancient Middle Eastern royalty they were used to aid seduction.

Bananas : Who would have thought that this fruit, so commonly available round the year, would have such properties? Your humble ‘kela’, is much more than a nutritious fruit. The banana flower with its phallic shape is partially responsible for its popularity as an aphrodisiac food. Banana is also rich in potassium and vitamin B which are a necessity for sex hormone production.

Grapes : This is one fruit which has often figured as food of love. Pictures of lovers teasing and feeding each other with grapes are quite common. But now we know why. Related to Dionysus, wine and fertility, grapes have long been considered the food of Gods.

Saffron : Often used as a flavour in many Indian sweet dishes, these orange flakes, better known in India as ‘kesar’ has stimulating effects on the erogenous zones. Studies have proven that saffron has the same effect as hormones.

So you see, getting yourself or your partner into the right mood is not that difficult or expensive. While scented candles, massage oils and caviar are always a welcome treat, for the not-so-special occasions you can give always peep into your refrigerator or your vegetable basket for some help.

(These are some of the common non-medical aphrodisiacs that we came across on the net. However, none of these have been medically proven to have aphrodisiacal properties!)

Seducing Senses

You can touch my hair and kiss me everywhere... Does it sound too clichéd or rather boring way to seduce your partner? Are you tired of reading the same old techniques of seduction?

Well, what about going back to the basics? And nothing can be more basic than the five senses - sense of sight, sense of smell, sense of taste, sense of hearing, sense of touch. These can really keep things sizzling hot during sex. Vatsayan would have definitely vouched for that! We get modern day experts to share more on it...

To keep the flames burning in your sex-life, you must fine-tune your seduction skills. With fingers busy, mouths, lips, tongues, noses, and eyes enticed, sensuousness will linger in every move to make you the most desirable man or woman of seduction.

Rita Gangwani, an etiquette expert, shares, “Sometimes we take the senses so much for granted that we don't really pay attention to them. Working to develop the five senses and focusing on them while making love, drawing attention to his/her sensuousness will not only enhance your own pleasure, but will give pleasure to your lover as well.”

Dr. Sanjay Chugh, expert on sexual issues, says, “The seduction tips that one can employ also depends on ‘overall’ quality of the couple's relationship. If there is a healthy emotional and psychological bond between the two, the chances of a good sex life is high. And in case, if one incorporates a few out-of-the-box techniques, then it’s definitely some icing on the cake!”

Psychiatrist Dr. Samir Parikh supports, “Couples need to keep trying to make things work for them but the key is not just trying new things, its more to be attuned to each others likes, fantasies and pleasures so that a mutually satisfying relationship could result. They can try various permutations and combinations of these seduction ways on their personalities.”

On how these five senses work towards stimulating the libido of male/female partner, Dr. Parikh explains, “Most of these factors (senses) have an association in our mind, so they act as a conditioned stimulus, and can help creating the atmosphere. But the key would be the mutuality and the quality of the non-sexual life would have its direct impact on the sexual life.”

Rita adds, “One must be aware to the fact that human body is bristling with sensory receptors - God’s gift to humankind - it’s up to us to responsibly enjoy it. One must give body the permission to celebrate what’s inside; celebrate it with oneself, and with the partner. We must take time to really learn the subtle but very powerful art of seducing the opposite sex using all five senses.”

These are simple yet extremely seductive ways.

SENSE OF SIGHT
It’s an individual choice how you choose to decorate your bedroom but what’s important here is to place care and attention on the location. Stuff like candles, silky bedding and lots of pillows and even hot lingerie can do wonders.

Expert view : This may not be possible all the time but can be reserved for those special occasions where one wants to feel and act different. Using rose petals and pillows as props can surely add to the fun!

SENSE OF SMELL
Aromatics and fragrances are the best mood setters however most of couples won’t know how to make the most of it. Aromatics can work for you or against you, so make sure that you know which scents your partner enjoys. Scented candles incense or scented massage oil can excite your partner.

Expert view : Some smells/fragrances make you feel calm and relaxed and this contributes to one's state of mind while making love. A massage certainly tends to loosen you up and soothes your senses.

SENSE OF TASTE
Believe it or not, but food can be powerful aphrodisiacs. Try strawberries with whipped cream, grapes or edible lotions, chocolate syrups or honey.

Expert view : It is understood that aphrodisiacs tend to increase one's libido, desire for sex and set the right mood. Some would even reduce one's usual inhibitions and make you more comfortable, aroused and stimulated.

SENSE OF HEARING
Apart from whispering in ears and listening to your body while making love, other sounds and noises can also do the magic. Let your partner listen to an erotic story in the background pre-recorded in your voice or a romantic piece of music that fits the overall mood you are going for.

Expert view : The kind of noise, nature and type would be important, as a loud, disturbing, croaky cacophonous noise is definitely a turn off. However, some soothing, romantic music can surely get you in the naughty mood.

SENSE OF TOUCH
This happens to be the most erotic senses of all. You can add that extra sensation to this sense with silky bedding, lingerie, or even with oil massage. You may also try building up the mood with ice cube, feather, something furry or a rose bud.

Expert view : The entire human body is an erogenous zone - the neck, shoulders, arms, ear, lips...the list goes on and on! Exploring this zone and stroking it gently can certainly get your partner feel horny and increasingly passionate.

How to tell her you love her

Telling her “I love you” is a big stem in building a relationship. There are many ways of doing it, but make sure you mean it before you say it to your girlfriend. Plan it all well. Here’s how you can go about it...

FIRST STEP: Decide on when and where you want to tell her. Would you like to do it in a special place? Do you want to say it to her on a certain day? Maybe if her birthday is coming up soon, you’d like to wait and finally propose to her on that special day. You might want to tell her at the restaurant where you went the first time.

SECOND STEP: You have to set the mood and be romantic. Buy her flowers. Flowers often say a lot. You could also buy her a romantic gift, something she would love.

THIRD STEP: Look at her directly, take her hand and tell her how positive you feel about her. Give her examples of things you really like about her. Be
sincere.

FOURTH STEP: In your conversation, convey to her how you feel being with her and how much you enjoy your time together. Be specific about what you value and appreciate about being with her.

FIFTH STEP: Follow these positive statements with telling her you love her in whatever way feels best for you. For instance, “I feel I’ve come to love you” or “I realise I love you” or “I feel so much love for you” or “I've fallen in love with you” or simply “I love you.” But hey, don’t hesitate and not say it at all. It’s your big day, be calm and tell her what you feel. After all, there’s been so much preparation you’ve made for this moment. In all probability, she will smile and accept your proposal.

9 Goof up to avoid in Bed

When you're in bed with your lover, the last thing you want to do is turn them off. That said, here are a few common blunders that you should not commit.

1. NOT KISSING

Believe it or not, many people (and this includes women) don't kiss their partner when they're having sex. Why? Perhaps because the positioning doesn't allow for it or they are too eager to climax and feel that it might break the rhythm. Nevertheless, it is highly recommended that you make an effort to kiss your partner during the act – it will only add to the experience.

2. BITING BEFORE YOUR PARTNER'S READY

While many people enjoy an aggressive partner, biting any part of their body before they are aroused may lead to pain and discomfort (and might even lessen the chances of any further action ) or simply scare them off. So make sure your partner is fully excited before you bite their ear, shoulders, neck or any other part of their body.

3. IGNORING EVERYTHING BUT SEXUALISED PARTS:

Genitals are great, no doubt, but you should definitely pay attention to other parts of your lover's body and focus for some time on their entire body – knees, wrists, back and stomach are highly erogenous zones for men as well as women. Gently caressing these areas will help excite your partner further; in turn, increasing the chances of them pleasuring you back.

4. PUTTING YOUR WEIGHT ON YOUR PARTNER

Even if you're a girl! It's okay to lose yourself in the moment every once in a while and go crazy on your lover. But when you're lying on top of them, you have to be careful not to drop your weight on them. Chocking them or hindering their ability to breathe will anyway kill the moment and any chances of some good action.

5. CLIMAXING TOO SOON/ TOO LATE

This one is especially for men. You need to have good control on your muscles to ensure that you can ejaculate at an appropriate time. Too soon and you may leave your partner unsatisfied; too late and it might leave your partner feeling as if they're pumping iron at the gym. To avoid this, spend a lot more time on foreplay (this will help men as well as women). If you take too long and can only ejaculate via manual stimulation, do your best to get your partner to orgasm and then they can return you the favour.

6. NOT WARNING YOUR PARTNER BEFORE YOU CLIMAX

If you're going to let go – and this applies even to women – whether during oral sex or intercourse, you need to tell your partner beforehand. Something as simple as "I'm going to let go," will suffice. Your partner deserves to know.

7. TREATING SEX LIKE PORN

Although some couples enjoy having raunchy sex, you'd be wise to talk to your partner before you engage in such behaviour. If you begin being nasty with your lover without knowing if they like it first, chances are the scenario won't end on a happy note.

8. STAYING QUIET

Do you like to hear it when your partner is having a good time? So pay them the same respect and speak up when you're enjoying yourself. Something as simple as a little moan, or even saying something like, "that feels so good," will encourage them and educate them further on your moan zones.

9. MECHANICAL ACT

It may feel comfortable to you to pump away like you do at the gym, but you'll quickly discover that most people don't enjoy such an act. Mix it up a little bit; go fast at times, then slowly. Be creative and you'll find yourself enjoying some variation too.

Tips to arouse your SENSES

Here are some tips, suggested by the expert, to arouse your senses...

SIGHT
1. Move in front of the mirror, so the two of you get front-row seats for the evening show.

2. Make eye contact with each other and let each other know that you have a deep connection. Don’t close your eyes during lovemaking; it makes your partner feel that you’re bringing someone else into the imagination.

3. Porn is great, if your partner is game but do not overdo this and neither expect partner to perform like a porn star forcibly. Let it happen naturally.

4. Keep the lights soft and filtered, as too bright lighting can detract from the ambience.

5. For special evenings, nothing adds romance like the warm glow of candles.

6. You can even try doing a strip tease for each other on some romantic number.

SMELL

1. Pheromones, the perfume of sexual attraction (produced by your body naturally) can be a great turn-on but make sure your partner is comfortable with it.

2. Rose petals can either be stewed on the bed or you can take a sensual bath with rose petals in the tub. Other herbal aphrodisiacs like jasmine, rose and ylang ylang can also be tried.

3. Gently wipe your light bulbs with a thin coat of perfumed oil and it’ll send calming or sensual scents throughout the bedroom.

4. Sprinkle dusting powder on your sheets to make them fragrant and silky. Scented sachets of lavender and rosemary also add to the air of romance.

5. Slightly menthol scented hygiene washes can be used to wash your body for that fresh tingly smell.

6. Use a mint or a mouth freshener before you kiss your partner.

TASTE

1. Get some sensual food items to bed like chocolate sauce, strawberries, grapes or whipped cream to explore the world of sexy tastes.

2. Bring a few flavored warming massage oils that come in multiple flavors like strawberry, cherry and banana. These sexy oils not only create heat and lubrication, they taste good, too!

3. Hand-feed each other fruits with curious textures, like pomegranates or lychees. The sugar and unique feel of the fruit on her lips and tongue can serve up an arousing double shot of pleasure.

4. Drink champagne from sexy champagne glasses, caress the long stem and lick each other’s lips - this is mind blowing too.

5. Edible underwear in different flavors can also be experimented with.

SOUND

1. Play some slow, romantic music to get your partner in the mood for a long night of sex. Be vocal. Moan when he/she hits the right spots during the act. These sounds boost up arousal.

2. Give him/ her little auditory arousal with some hot compliments. Do dirty talk and tell each other what you would like to do to them.

3. Read dirty porn stories aloud to each other.

4. Try enacting a fantasy character and talk like him/ her - a fantasy lover, film star, or characters like doctor, nurse etc... just go crazy with the imagination.

5. If it's noisy outside your bedroom window, hang thick curtains to muffle the sound. Keep distractions such as the television in another room.

6. Please recheck that your bed does not make squeaky sounds.

TOUCH

1. Make your room romantic and as cosy as possible by maintaining the right temperature, as per the season.

2. Put silky/ satiny sheets on the bed, which will make the bed look instantly ready for sex. Real key is a comfortable mattress, so make sure that it’s neither too hard nor too soft.

3. Throw some light weight soft pillows of various sizes all over the bed. These come very handy while experimenting with various sexual positions.

4. Hold an ice cube in your palm and as it melts, drip it down his/her abdomen.

5. A foot massage can trigger the nerves that connect with the genitals.

6. Stroke each other’s hair and to further arouse this, give each other a back massage. Use feather, flowers, and petals to stroke the body and send shivers down the spine.

7. Lick each others trigger zones and breathe on the neck and ears. Blind fold your partner with silk scarf and let the game start.

Sexual Temptation

It's widely believed that eating chocolates produce certain hormones that are exactly the same as those generated while having sex! Then why eat chocolates? Sex is a better option!

While you'd do anything to savour the ultimate joy before, during and after sex, you might not know that there are several food items that can build up the mood, ignite the passion and get you going for a gratifying act in bed.

Aphrodisiacs, as they are commonly referred to, may have some scientific study backing them up, but couples usually select them based on certain preset notions and beliefs.

While some feel that they're tempting enough to evoke their erotic senses, for others, aphrodisiacs are an integral part of the foreplay process. Surprisingly, some men have even resorted to referring to Kareena Kapoor's poster where dark chocolate ran all over her assets. "When I see melted chocolate, it tempts me a lot and I get a feeling of my partner trying to seduce me in bed. It's not that I spread chocolate all over her body, but having a bite of chocolate and then kissing her with it in my mouth sets the mood right," shares 29-year old Vineet Khanna.

Other than chocolate, fruits like strawberries and bananas are also considered to be effective aphrodisiacs. "Of course, you can't think of teasing your partner with a fruit like mango. Strawberries are small and the heart-shape helps in building the sexual mood, as you can just take half of it in your mouth and let your partner try and bite the remaining half. Also, the soft thorns on the outer layer work well to make my hubby horny," feels Jigyasa Thakore.

There's a belief that the more a couple sweat it out in bed, the wilder the sex escapade gets. Couples also therefore tend to consume more of chilli peppers to induce sweating. "Eating chicken makes my man sweat a lot and I don't need to add that extra, spicy chilli. In a way, mere chicken acts as an aphrodisiac for me to get him going," shares 32-year old housewife Meenal Duggal.

While aphrodisiacs have been doing their rounds since time immemorial, nobody really knows what good they actually do. Read ahead to know more about how they work...